Monday, 6 July 2020

Six Years and Ten Months!!?!

Yes. It is true. It has been almost six years and ten months since I had my last alcoholic beverage. I can barely believe it myself. Had you been me seven years ago, you would not believe it either. I am glad about it. I am still delighted.

I have not posted in a while. You all might know what has been happening in the world lately. However, not many know I have two new children since February. I have had three of "my own" children over the past three years. They happened to be "born" to me at varying ages. Please do not ask me to explain all the quotation marks there, all I can say is, it is complicated. It is all a little complicated. Is it not said, Keep It Simple?

All said, good things can and do happen every day. With training. I have been able to see it. I hope that others can see it too. I train myself. I use a gratitude list. I focus on what needs to be done.




The take-away of my life right now is this: I am a raging alcoholic. By the grace of God, and I believe this with my whole heart, I have been granted a daily reprieve of my alcoholism. I know who I was praying to while I was a staggering drunk so nobody can say this does not exist to me. I already proved time and time again what I would do were I left to my own devices. I lost or destroyed or burned every bridge to every home I had since I was a teenager. In real life, I did not burn anything but maybe a cigarette since I was a teenager. Burnt bridges as a figure of speech... I did quit smoking cigarettes around the same time I quit drinking. I do not vape.

When I first quit drinking, I was sick. Over the years I have become healthier, I have aged too, but who knows what I might have been at if I had not quit the booze? I have seen my drinking friends, those who are still alive...




As the time goes by, being sober becomes more and more the normal for me. I enjoy outings and regular life without having to pick up a drink. Funnily, not funny, I generally got drunk rather quickly so either way, I was not necessarily there for any events anyway. In fact, one guy took me to a hockey game and at one point I was yelling at him and another moment I was asleep in the stands. Please do not get me wrong, I like hockey. The booze took that away from me. I still do not watch enough. However, life has become busy. Later, I keep telling myself, later I will do this or that. I am not fooling myself. I know there are things I will never do again in this life. If drinking alcohol is one of those things then I shall be a happy woman.




Life is a blur sometimes. It is said, time flies when you are having fun!

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​More than six years and nine months ago, Lisa retired from practicing alcoholism.

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Thursday, 5 December 2019

I Am Sober

It's been six years now. I still wake up fresh some mornings like, can this be real? How did this happen? It wasn't ten years ago when I slipped on the ice in a back alley. I was crossing the tracks in North Battleford, SK. I lay there on my back, staring at the night sky. There's this huge light that flashes across the sky all night there from the casino. My heart was beating hard. I continued to lay there. A couple of tears squeezed out of my eyes and coldly ran down the side of my head. I cried out, begging to die now or else be saved from this life. The casino lamps flashed around. This wasn't the first time I begged this same thing. This time, and times thereafter, I cried and I prayed.

I wasn't completely sick yet that day. I had to go quite a ways down still afterwards before the end came. But the end did come and that's why I'm writing here today. Six years ago I was sober. I was very sick though. It was years before I could boast any semblance of health. I don't really boast you know. I did nothing on my own. In fact, those years leading up to the end of my drinking career were the very proof of what I would do if left to my own devices. I made a lot of bad decisions. Some of those I live with day to day. But it's ok. I think I can live because I am sober. I believe that everything is going to work itself out. I just need to do my part. That is not pick up a drink today.

Then do the same thing tomorrow.



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Saturday, 28 September 2019

Here!

I saw a post on Facebook today from a recovery centre close to me. It was of Macklemore talking about his recovery. I wanted to like the video on YouTube, so while I was searching it, I found his video Starting Over. I gotta tell ya, I almost cried so hard when I listened to that song. FYI: I am still sober. It has been more than six years since I was drunk or had my last alcoholic drink.

My bio mom passed away over the summer. A lot has changed. I guess one of the reasons I got a tear in my eye when I listened to the song was partly because I thought about my mom. In the beginning, she was so happy about her recovery. The day she sobered up for good was New Years and she was seven years alcohol-free at her passing. Another reason is because of the friend I lost long ago who was a drinker. It has been over ten years now since I saw him last. In fact, I have several friends who did not make it back to starting over. May they rest in peace. A moment of silence...

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Six years does not feel that long when I think about how I feel about my sobriety. I would have to say I am as careful today with it as I was in the beginning. I respect sobriety like a friend I know that could kill me in an instant. Really. Yesterday, I was in the restaurant with my love when he (he's sober too) bought a non-alcoholic malt raspberry drink. It fizzed at the top like a beer, (I think, it's been a long time), and offered me a sip. "Are you sure it doesn't have alcohol in it?" That's me at more than six years sobriety. I am careful.

One thing I do, which I know can be dangerous for my recovery, is I occasionally get mad, angry, livid and sometimes hold grudges for a little while. Strong feeling like this have brought me to the bottle before. Trying to remain sober and happy? Don't hold grudges! Forgive! I know, I know. My adopted mum used to say, "Practice what you preach." Honestly? Yes, I strive to be honest. If I am mad, I don't hide it much. I still have a little bit of a temper. Why did my one sponsor tell me, "You have to be like this, *gestures a straight horizontal line* with your emotions."? I cannot agree with that for myself just yet. I like feelings. I also feel happy, elated, glad, enthusiastic, etc. The list goes on. When I first quit drinking, I used to feel annoyed, angry, sad and depressed. Not much of an array for feelings back then at all.

Today I am not and was not particularly upset about anything. The music video caught me off guard. I get busy with the day to day things. The past, the good, the bad, the ugly, sneaks its way in when I am not expecting it. I realized how much my sobriety means to me, how very important it is, and how much I missed sharing about it here at my blog. No matter what, sobriety remains high priority on my list of items I am truly grateful about. I didn't have much of a life when I was drinking. I didn't have many, or any friends, I was lonely even when I was around a bunch of people. I was totally lost.

Things are different for me now. I enjoy the day to day experiences as much as I can. There are obviously certain things I don't like, radiation, my mom's cancer, sickness, being hurt, being treated badly, ugh, all things I abhor. I do not set my focus on this bad stuff though. I can not. Another thing I cannot do is isolate. I have to keep talking to people. There's no way around it. I also have to share. I also have to donate some of my time and some of my money to others. I cannot just think about myself all the time. 

Over the six sober years, I have figured some answers out. First, and this is what many people ask is "What is your secret of staying sober for such a long time?" Truthfully, I don't pick up. That's the main thing. Spiritually, I pray, I am grateful. Physically, I am conscious of eating better, and exercising. Mentally, I work hard, I do a lot of schoolwork. I have friends, I talk to people, I write pages, I listen to music. My health is important to me. The second most asked question is, "Do you miss drinking?" The answer is a resounding no. I never miss drinking. I did that plenty before. I might still die later on from the after effects, (like cancer). 

I understand that my not drinking today is a daily reprieve. I am grateful that I have never had the urge to drink in at least five years. I don't know exactly when the urge went away but I knew one day it was gone. Otherwise I would have drank. That's the truth. The urge to drink was always what got me going and made me drink again. I also prayed and tried to quit drinking for years before it finally kept for this long.

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​More than six years ago, Lisa retired from practicing alcoholism.

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Thursday, 14 March 2019

If I Had A Dollar...

Where I used to spend money like it was going out of style on the booze, I now save and do what I can for my family. The family has grown in the past five years since I quit drinking. I have grown.

Since September last year, I have been a university student. Amazingly, I passed all my classes last semester. I am working on a new set of classes to be finished by end of May.

A loved one I am estranged from is coming to the end of their journey. I tried to make peace. My emails and texts were returned with a series of mean emails.

Sobriety is easy in a lot of ways. I generally do not have the drama involved in my life I had when I was drinking. I enjoy the peace.

Another loved one has been asking me for money. I know the money is being used for drinking. Is my life then out of control?

No. My desk is out of control. There are piles of papers, clothes and other things starting up around my house.

This is what makes things out of control. When I litrally do not have everything under control. I need to simplify my life.

I do not give up. I keep at sobriety like a loving relationship. My life has never been the same.


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​More than five years ago, Lisa took a life-giving "retirement", quitting practicing alcoholism.

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Thursday, 20 December 2018

Still Sober Christmas 2018- Lisa L'Heureux

And so this is Christmas...

Greetings to everyone who lays eyes on this post!

It has been more than five years since I had my last alcoholic beverage. In writing and speaking, in my everyday life, I want to continue on the sober path because it helps!

My son had gone off into the world and spent almost two years away, drinking and doing whatever he was doing. Every day I prayed and thought about him. When I would drive around in the city, I would keep an eye out on the streets for him. I knew from friends he was ok, if you could call it that. I knew in my heart he was struggling; call it mother's intuition. I knew.

One day, as I had many other days, I looked at the bus stop by a treatment center. I thought if my son had rough enough times drinking he would go to treatment. Without anticipation, I watched the bus stop as we drove past. Suddenly, I saw him! My son was sitting there at the bus stop I had driven by many times over the period of almost two years looking for him.

My son struggled in treatment. After a short time, I found him again. He came back home to get on his feet. About a month into his stay we had stopped in for a quick burger at a fast food place. We happened to park in a large parking lot mainly facing toward a liquor store. In fact, I bought alcohol at the particular liquor store in the past.

I never think about liquor stores particularily. As we were sitting there eating our burgers, my son said, "Look at mom. She never even looked at the liquor store." I looked up. I gazed at the liquor store. "That's right. There is a liquor store there. I never really look at it." I stated simply.

My son said, "You must have done something right."

I responded, "I have a lot of help."

It's true.

At this time of year when people are celebrating the blessed Lord Jesus's birth or Santa Clause or neither, the Higher Power of an Alcoholic Anonymous is certainly put to the test. Over the clinks of glasses and the Cheers and Beers, it is important to remember that an alcoholic must be honest. To drink or not to drink, that is the question.

I won't.
Just for today.
Happy 24.

-Sober Lisa



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​More than five years ago, Lisa took a life-giving "retirement", quitting practicing alcoholism.

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Thursday, 20 September 2018

Five Years Sober: Lisa L'Heureux

Although I knew that shot of tequila I had on September 21, 2013, had to be my last drink, I did not know what it would be like to actually have five years continuous sobriety. I have to say, it feels mighty good.

I have never been so healthy. In mind or body. I had to modify my diet to get well. I want to be even better and I do believe that I can gain more by modifying my diet further. As it is, I haven't been a meat eater in years. I quit mainly because I had digestive problems. Likely caused by having a liquid diet for a couple of years before I quit drinking.

It has been exciting this past year things really started to happen. I am officially busy. I still try to watch tv. I go on Social Media to let people know what is going on with me. I began university. I talked about Freedom from Alcohol and Drug Addiction. I am glad to talk about my experiences. I am glad to be a role model of sorts.

It's fun to be sober. I am enthusiastic about many things. I like my friends. They like me. Some of my relationships have grown. Others stay the same. Some are no more. I have a family around me.

But wait! Not everything is perfect. Some things are much worse. I have had such grief I have never known since I sobered up. I don't focus on that, and that's how I get by. One day at a time.



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​Five years ago, Lisa took a life-giving "retirement", quitting practicing alcoholism.

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Thursday, 6 September 2018

Time Keeps on Ticking: Lisa L'Heureux

My, how the time flies! Right. I have filled the time up with various activities and successes that I would not have been able to have had I been using. Family, friends, working, learning, hoping are some of what my life is like. I would like to say "how the time flies". My time often crawls by, still today, after all this time.

Who will I be? Who am I becoming? These are some of the questions I still ask myself. I have had some losses these past sober years that have left me without the innocence that I had in the beginning. I think we all kind of lose that though. It is a matter of looking at the good parts. For me, knowing that there are still good parts of my life ahead.

In this month it will have been five years since I had my last drunk and my last cigarette, as I quit smoking cigarettes at the end of August five years ago. The last time I did any recreational drugs was over five years ago. In the years since I quit drinking, I quit eating meat and consuming caffeine. There is no white granulated sugar in my house. I am getting better every day. Not saying that anyone should quit eating meat, I did it because I had health digestive problems. I feel better now.

But why did I do these things? What have I been trying to accomplish? This is of the utmost importance. I have family members who are addicts of the following: Food, drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling and even relationships. In the past, I have been a practicing addict of all the above. I would love to help a sister who is a practicing addict. I would love to show her that after drinking and drugging, etc. sobriety can possibly clear up a lot of the confusion and mess.

It's not easy, not the easiest path for sure... At first. After a while, it seems to become the only way. What do I know coming up on five years? I used to be a chronic relapser, so I know that getting clean and sober is totally worth it. It is completely doable.


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​Five years ago, Lisa took a life-giving "retirement", quitting practicing alcoholism.

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